It’s All Within Your Way Of Thinking.

It’s All Within Your Way Of Thinking.

It’s All Within Your Way Of Thinking.

“The brain is not designed to make you happy. It’s designed to make you survive. And that mind is always looking to try to protect you from some form of danger.” Tony Robbins

Most of the time, the danger is not even real, but we live in fear anyway. What is the fear then? Fear represents the desire you have in your heart and your mind is telling you- it is not going to happen.

Grab your journal and start writing.

What is on the way? What is stopping you from living the life you want.

Be an observer of your own thoughts.

Can you notice any patterns that are creating all the doubts? What small action you can take today towards your dream? What would be the smallest shift in your thinking that would make you feel slightly better? Did you find some answers yet?
Search for it, day after day, page after page with your journal.

Get to know yourself. Get to know your thoughts and I dare you don’t believe everything you think.


Are you a resilient person?

Are you a resilient person?

Let’s talk about Resilience today.

First of all, let’s define resilience: it is the capacity to bounce back quickly from adversity. In other words, it’s your mental toughness.

Are you resilient?

Are you able to get back on track when things don’t go the way you wanted them to go?


Do you get disappointed and have a hard time turning your mindset around?

I want to share with you a few thoughts that help me to stay focused during the times of adversity:

  1. Organize and gain control over your thoughts.

In times of adversity, our mind goes crazy. Fear will create false stories that will affect your emotional state.

In those times, you might not be able to see the real picture.

  1. Believe in your ability to figure things out.

Come on! You did it many times before. It’s not your first round, isn’t it?

  1. Be resourceful. Ask for help.

Believe me, there are plenty of people who experienced the same or similar problems to before you. Don’t be afraid to reach out to them.

  1. Be adapting. You can’t change what already happened but you can learn from it and make adjustments in the future.
  2. Be proactive. Don’t ignore your problems. Instead, figure out what needs to be done and take action.

I need your attention here!

Resilience won’t make your problems go away. However, resilience can give you the ability to see past them, improve your ability to cope, and find enjoyment in life after all.

Let me know your thoughts below in the comments.


What is your internal map of reality?

What is your internal map of reality?

“Our beliefs and habits cause us to drop any visual or sensory input from our awareness in order to match up with our ‘internal map’ of reality.” @johnassaraf 

What is your internal map of reality? Do you even know that you have one?

Psst…I didn’t know it for a very long time.

It changed when I was introduced to coaching through journaling ✍️. For the very first time, I could see my thoughts 💭👀. For the very first time, I was in control.

Yes, it was scary. If I could make a picture of my mind at that time, it would look like the busiest airport you have ever visited.

Just imagine: you are travelling, you have to switch planes in a different country. You don’t know the language. There are signs but you have no clue what they say. You try to ask people around but everyone is so busy trying to figure out their own “shit.” The “Information ℹ️ desk” that is supposed to make your life easier is not even open. Your mind is spinning around. The worst scenarios of being stuck in an unwanted situation are becoming very vivid. Emotions are rising up. You don’t want to miss your flight! You don’t want to be here! You start to feel lost, lonely and uncomfortable. Somebody Help Me!!!

Journal writing helped me to become aware of how my “internal map of reality” is running my life.

So what is an internal map of reality?

Your thinking patterns are your map. Thinking patterns are responsible for how you view the world and what choices you make.

Tip: Get to know your “internal map of reality”. It will change your life in a positive way. You will become calmer and happier.

Being a pilot is better than being a passenger. As a pilot, you are in control. You are never going to miss your flight.


It only takes a few seconds to hurt someone

It only takes a few seconds to hurt someone

“It only takes a few seconds to hurt someone…and it takes years to repair the damage.” – Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. 

‘Been there, Done that.’

I want to add that often we choose to stay way too long in the pain.

Sometimes our ego side chooses the revenge for being hurt and is hurting people around with bitterness and nasty attitude.

Again, ‘Been there, Done that.

When you might think that revenge may serve you as a form of protection or some kind of justice, you make yourself wrong.

Revenge Makes You Feel Only Worse!

The best revenge is to move on and cherish the hearts that truly love you and cherish yourself.

‘Been there, Done that.’


How Quality Questions Can Change the Quality of Your Life.

How Quality Questions Can Change the Quality of Your Life.

How Quality Questions Can Change the Quality of Your Life.

Remember, it’s not the events of your life that determine how you feel and act but, rather, the meaning you create from your life’s experiences. Learning to ask empowering questions- especially in moments of crisis- is a critical skill that will ultimately shape the meanings you create, and therefore the quality of your life. – Anthony Robbins.

I love Tony’s words about asking powerful questions during tough times. I learned it through journaling.

But.. what are the differences between empowering and disempowering questions?

Let’s compare:

“Why is it always happening to me?”

“Why am I so unlucky?”

Are these questions empowering?

No! It takes you only on the path to self-pity road.

Now, what about the following questions?

“What can I learn from this experience?”

“What is the pattern I am repeating over and over?”

“How can I do this differently to come up with a better outcome?”

Do you see the difference already?

It’s all about the perception of your mind.

By training yourself to ask empowering questions, regardless of the circumstances, you will be able to redirect your focus on new possibilities and solutions instead of feeling sorry for yourself and creating more of what you don’t want.

Has this post inspired you to ask yourself empowering questions? Let me know in the comments

Beata xx

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